Wednesday, September 23, 2009

Auntie Sharon Yearbook Memories

This is Andy Hardin with Sharon as Who's Who Most Ambitious. And the class voted correctly on this one! (per Benita Hughes Cahalane)
Sharon is the top right. Her caption says, " I live by the faith of the Son of God who loved me and gave himself for me." Sharon has a very deep faith. (Benita Hughes Cahalane)
Thank you Benita for providing these for me to post........

Monday, September 21, 2009

My Mama

Mom called today and says she is flying back out on Saturday (9/26/09) to WA to stay with Aunt Sharon at least 2 weeks but possibly longer. She is declining pretty rapid. I'd like to ask all of you reading this blog to please be in prayer for her. She is having a really hard time knowing her ONLY sister, her BABY sister is across the country and dying. So is my Grandmother. We all are having a hard time. But my mother is a strong Christian woman and it's been tugging on her heart to go back out and be with Sharon. So please keep her constantly in your prayers. Thank you,
Tracy

Saturday, September 19, 2009

Aunt Sharon update 9/19/09

Update from John:

Just returned from Kalaloch Lodge on the Pacific Coast and Mt Rainer.

Sharon has degraded a lot from when we left last tuesday to our return today (saturday). At the beach, I asked her if she wanted to go home, and she said no, and pointed to Mt Rainer on the map. It was all really too much for her. She broke down in tears many times faced with the reality of the situation.

She has virtually lost her right arm. It mostly hangs limp, but sometimes she has it up. Her right leg is starting to go. Her language center is very badly damaged.

Sharon has degraded to where yes/no answers are getting difficult. This is a very huge change. She has also developed a dry cough over the last few days.

We ate out a lot on vacation, and I essentially feed her everything. Sometimes she will snap something off her plate with her left hand.

jf

Tuesday, September 15, 2009

9/15/09 Sharon Update





Isn't she beautiful?
I'm going to miss her sooooooo much!!!!!!!!


From John:

Sharon, for the most part, has lost about 90% of her right arm and 50% of her right leg. Her walking (with much assistance) is getting worse. Soon, she will not be able to do our stairs even with my assistance, which she has required for a long time.

Hospice nurse will show up today to bath Sharon. We leave for a week tomorrow(at Sharon's demand) for Kalaloch Lodge on the pacific coast. This will be Sharon's last trip. I do not think this is a good idea to do this trip, but it is her wishes.

Sharon's communication has deteriorated to mainly her pointing, and responding to yes and no.

Saturday, September 12, 2009

Sharon update

I talked with John via email today. He said her communication is getting worse and her right side of body is getting weaker. BUT she wants him to take her to the Pacific Coast for a couple of days. Apparently a spot she loves. So I believe sometime this week, they're taking off for there. A few of her high school friends have emailed her and sent old pictures. She is truly loved by all. This is a trying time for my family. We're all devastated. It doesn't seem real but we know God is with us every step of the way and there is a reason for this. As Casting Crowns sings, "And though my heart is torn, I'll praise Him in this storm."

Wednesday, September 9, 2009

"Sharon" as written by her adoring husband John







I would just like to provide a little update, background and assessment so all are not in the dark about what is going on with Sharon Fain.

As for her diagnosis, I was convinced by the neurologist at U of W Medical Center (the second opinion) that Sharon's previous diagnosis of CJD was correct. I made him show it to me specifically on the MRI. I had prepared a detailed timeline of Sharon's illness. All of the tests and treatments that were done ruled out a possibility of anything else known by mankind. Comparison of the two MRIs done 1-2 weeks apart, along with the timeline, confirmed the diagnosis and showed a very rapid progression of the disease. So, as I said, I was convinced, and I am not an easy person to convince.

As for "how is Sharon now", Sharon had a great Saturday with her family (who arrived Friday) from Alabama. She stayed in bed a good part of the day, but ate 2 helpings of "southern food" for lunch, and an awesome dinner, thanks to Cerium Networks.

Saturday was also Sharon's first "up day" in a while, and she had so much fun laughing with her family. They all even watched a football game where the Alabama Crimson Tide beat VA Tech, and she would "whoop and holler" every time Alabama did something good (Alabama football is a religion for her family) and laugh when her nephew would imitate how his father and Sharon's father would act when they were watching a Bama football game. So this is an awesome memory for me to be left with. This was also a highlight for Sharon.

Sharon still, as of this moment, has the ability to comprehend most conversations, but can no longer properly verbalize most things but simple responses like yes, no, thats right, "hell yeah", etc. She even completed a few simple sentences every once in a while this weekend.

Sunday, Sharon dropped a notch, and today, Monday, she has dropped another notch. Soon, I may see losses of cognition as rapidly as between the morning and the evening. This should all go very very fast, and she will be in little or no pain whatsoever.

Hospice of Spokane will contact me Tuesday for admitting her into their program. My goal is for her to stay at home until the very end, or at least until she has zero cognition of any aspect at all of her home. She is very strong, so I believe her body will not go quickly.

Just know that Sharon and I have had a 23+ year marriage that has been the envy of everyone we know. So I cannot convey how much I will be destroyed by this. However, as soon as Sharon's diagnosis was confirmed, and I looked at her and nodded, all fear and despair left her face, and she has been very strong and fearless in the face of death. Her strength has been the biggest thing holding me together.

Also know that very early on, when the symptoms were nothing compared to what they are now, Sharon's biggest fear was that she might never be able to work at the job, and with the people, that she loved so much.

My fears for her were very different. I was afraid of what it would do to her to know that she would never be able to do all of the things that she had done in the past, like climbing big walls in Yosemite, ice climbing in places like Wyoming, Colorado and Norway, sport climbing at world famous climbing areas all over the country, alpine skiing, telemark skiing, skate skiing, cross country skiing, mountain biking down the trails from the top of Mt Spokane or at Riverside Park, cranking out a killer 2 hour step aerobics session in her gym, carrying a hundred pound pack full of climbing equipment uphill all day into mountains to climb backcountry rock faces in the wilderness,etc.

For those of you who do not already know, Sharon has had an awesome life filled with great adventure, more than most people have, or ever will see. Most people do not know that Sharon has been a great and fearless climber for most of the 23 years we have been together. She has accomplished many great feats of bravery.

As for our near future, Sharon will degrade very rapidly. Her great physical strength and endurance may most likely keep her around longer than some doctors predict. However, initially when we thought Sharon may have just had MS, she said she would not want to live her life in her then current condition.

So know that she is at peace with death and how much she loved her family, friends, company and the people she worked with.

She will be missed by you all, and so many more people that have known her for so long. As for me, I will miss my soul mate.

Sincerely,
John Fain

Tuesday, September 8, 2009

More from WA






I have attached a few more shots below. I didn't get a whole lot cause I guess my heart wasn't in to the photography out here. My only hope is that Stephanie, my sister in law, caught more memories I may could post later. But on Saturday night, the Alabama football game came on out here. It was on National TV so of course being the pyscho fans that my brothers and I are we watched. Michelle left cause she doesn't really care and mom sat on the swing because she gets so nervous that she refuses to watch. Aunt Sharon braved it out though. She even starting trying to impersonate Grandaddy Jack by standing up after the last couple of touchdowns saying, "NO FLAGS PLEASE, PENALTIES WILL KILL YOU!" We had the best day ever on Saturday. All her friends were there and we were too and lots of laughing.

Monday, September 7, 2009

More of my Aunt-TEE

The sunset. Every night Aunt Sharon's "thing" was to go out and watch the sunset.
We all would go out and sit with her but here's one of her watching the sunset as her loving husband looks on.
It was cold on Sunday. Uncle John built a fire. It was in the 50's and windy.
L-R Me, Aunt Sharon, Cousin Michelle, Mama and Hannah, chad's daughter.
One of my favorites. She loves us so much as we do her. She has SPOILED us rotten thru the years.

Aunt Sharon

Well as some may know, my Aunt was diagnosed with CJD. ( Creutzfeldt-Jakob Disease) We took a last minute trip to Spokane, WA to see her. CJD is a rapid moving fatal brain disease and dr's say she won't be around in 4 months.
(above)Unique cloud formation from the plane window( Below) As George Strait says, "I saw God today." also from the plane window.

Moon over Spokane the night we arrived.